Look at you. You have overcome so much. You have defied the odds against you. You have set new goals for yourself and reached new heights. Yet, here you are. Overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed.
How did you get here? How did I get here? How did we get here?
Over the years, we’ve learned how to cope, but have we really learned how to heal?
Here are some tips that I have gathered along the way:
It’s okay to take a day off. It’s okay to check out and stay in. Without these much needed days of recuperation, it is easy to burn out. Who wants to burn out before they have a chance to shine?
Tend to your passions. What relaxes you? What fills you with joy? A cup of tea? A bubble bath? Yoga? Meditation? Poetry? Revisit these passions often. Especially during stressful seasons. Exercising your body will allow you to exercise your mind. Delighting in a special ritual can lift your spirits.
There is no such thing as a quick repair. Fast fixes may provide temporary answers but will not produce lasting solutions. Every day contributes to the healing and strengthing of our characters. We must allow this process to take its course.
Don’t suppress or conceal your emotions. Let it all out. On the days when you are particularly stressed, communicate that out loud. When you do, you may find yourself one step closer to a resolution. You may even discover that you are not carrying the weight all by yourself.
Work can wait. Believe me it can. The internet will still be there tomorrow. Your deadline isn’t going anywhere. What can’t be compromised is your health. Your well being is a priority, so pay attention to what your body is telling you.
Don’t skip meals or delay sleep. Nourish your soul. Rest. Don’t underestimate the value of a good night’s sleep and a healthy breakfast. These routines are essential to your growth. They put you in the right mindset. They allow you to focus and re-energize.
Shut the computer down but don’t shut everyone out. There is nothing wrong from stepping away from social media or waiting to respond to an email the following morning. But when it comes to your support systems keep those lines of communication open. In the event that your friendships or relationships begin to take a toll on you, reevaluate. Who supports you? Who roots for you? Keep those people in your life. The doubters, haters, and naysayers don’t deserve your time.
Be honest with yourself. Stay true to you. You don’t answer to anyone else. Yeah, sometimes you answer to your boss but at the end of the day, this life is yours and yours alone.
When in doubt repeat these affirmations:
I am capable.
I am strong.
I am deserving.
I am worthy.
Peace and love!